Ever notice there are some people you instantly like, even before you really know them? Perhaps they know these psychological tips that make people like you right off the bat!
Compliment other people – People will associate the words you use to describe other people with you. It’s a phenomenon called, “spontaneous trait transference.” If you call someone else smart or nice, people will also think of YOU as smart or nice. It works the other way too. If you say bad things about people, your friends will associate those negative qualities with you as well.
Mimic the person you’re with – It’s called mirroring, and involves subtly copying someone else’s behavior. When you’re talking with someone, try copying their gestures, body language, and facial expressions.
Don’t be afraid to admit your flaws – People are likely to like you more after you make a mistake, but only if they believe you are generally competent. Revealing that you aren’t perfect makes you seem more real. Just don’t overdo it!
Share a secret – Disclosing something in confidence may be one of the best techniques for building relationships. A recent study found that people who asked increasingly personal questions felt much closer to each other than those who engaged in small talk.
Listen – Talking about yourself feels good, the same way that food, money, and canoodling do. Let the other person have that feeling. If you let the other person tell stories about their life instead of sharing yours, it’s likely to give them more positive memories of your conversation.
